Whether you’re in hospice care yourself or are with a loved one receiving care, it’s important to discuss how best to honor a person’s life and legacy through a personalized and meaningful service. By talking now, funeral wishes can be communicated, giving the family peace of mind and certainty that they are doing the right thing to honor a loved one’s life. One way to mark the significance of a life is through readings and poems.

Nationally recognized grief counselor Dr. Alan Wolfelt tells us that readings and poems are an valuable element of the service because they speak to “word people,” helping us search for meaning in the loss and activate support.

Poems are a particularly powerful type of reading that contribute to what Dr. Wolfelt refers to as the “sweet spot” of a meaningful funeral experience. For this reason, we have included ten great poems that can enhance a funeral service.

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10. “Dear Lovely Death by Langston Hughes

Famed Harlem Renaissance poet Langston Hughes was a master of economy, and his “less is more” approach is perfectly realized in “Dear Lovely Death.” Hughes packs an extraordinary amount of insight into a mere 10 lines. The result is a powerful and hopeful piece that speaks to mourners. Hughes suggests that death does not destroy or eradicate, but merely changes the nature of those it touches. The idea of death as change strikes an important balance for a funeral setting. Hopeful but not naïve, it allows us to see the situation in a more comforting light while never denying the reality of death.

9. “A Clear Midnight by Walt Whitman

This short piece by Whitman turns conventional poetic imagery on its head. While most poems use “midnight” to evoke negative, frightening emotions, Whitman sees the night as a time of calm and peace. When applied to a funeral setting, the flight of the soul “into the wordless” can be viewed as a metaphor for death. This vivid imagery touches mourners by depicting death as a place of rest.

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8. “Death is a Door by Nancy Byrd Turner

Turner’s poem views death as a time of transition and change and emphasizes the calming nature of death. Through the use of nature imagery, Turner evokes a sense of rejuvenation and implies that death gives birth to new life, though we can’t yet see what this new life looks like. Turner’s assertion that the threshold of death is eagerly crossed by “willing and weary feet” implies that whatever lies on the other side of the doorway of death is more encouraging than frightening.

7. “Requiem by Robert Louis Stevenson

Few people know that Robert Louis Stevenson, author of the famous novels Treasure Island and The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, also penned one of the greatest poems about death. “Requiem” is written from the perspective of the deceased, who is clearly satisfied with the life he lived. “Glad did I live and gladly die,” he proudly claims, and his contentment regarding the journey from life to death is comforting and encouraging. For those who lived a full and wonderful life, this poem reminds mourners that their loved one is at peace.

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6. “The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost

One of the most famous poems of all time, Robert Frost’s masterpiece is not necessarily a “funeral poem.” It isn’t specifically about death, and it doesn’t attempt to encourage mourners to ponder the transience of life. But it’s a wonderful tribute to a life well lived. The closing lines, “I took the road less traveled by, and that has made all the difference,” are a testament to a person who broke the mold and embraced life to the fullest. If you are looking for a piece that celebrates the uniqueness of life, consider reading this ode to originality.

5. “Successby Bessie Anderson Stanley *

In this famous essay-turned-poem, Bessie Anderson Stanley analyzes the true meaning of success. Success is not embodied in a person who chased after shallow achievements. Instead, success is a person who “laughed often, and loved much,” and “left the world better than he found it.” A fitting tribute to the life of someone who understood the true value of life, this classic poem will bring encouragement to mourners and allow them to reflect on the meaningful life of the person who has died.

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4. “When Great Trees Fall by Maya Angelou

This extraordinary work by the late Maya Angelou emphasizes the ripple effect created by the death of a great person. Angelou suggests that the deep hurt we feel is a testament to the brilliance of that individual’s life. While grief may hurt, it indicates that someone made a difference in the lives of others. The poem suggests that grief is extremely difficult but “after a period, peace blooms.” As we move through the grief journey, we come to accept the reality of the death. Eventually, we are able to recall memories that motivate us to find meaning in our lives.

3. “Death, Be Not Proudby John Donne

Perhaps the most famous poem to address mortality, John Donne’s 17th century classic is a tightly structured and perfectly realized refutation of the permanence of death. In a mere 14 lines, Donne sets out to bruise Death’s ego, and his skill matches his ambition. He challenges death by comparing it to rest and sleep. While death marks a stronger transition than sleep, Donne views both states as temporary. The final line, “Death, thou shalt die,” indicates Donne’s strong belief in an afterlife. For this reason, “Death, Be Not Proud” is a great choice for religious ceremonies. It is important to realize that Donne’s poem shouldn’t keep us from acknowledging the reality of death in this world; death separates us from our loved ones, and it is okay to grieve. Rather, the poem should encourage those who are religious by reminding them that the soul of their loved one is at peace.

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2.”If I Can Stop One Heart from Breakingby Emily Dickinson

In this compact, seven-line poem, Dickinson doesn’t waste time on flowery language or indulgent imagery. Her approach to the material is clear, concise, and direct. The primary theme of the poem is the importance of love, which trumps all other human virtues. The speaker claims that by helping another being, she “shall not live in vain.” The size of the act is less important than the intention behind the act. A person need not have his or her good deeds recognized as grand accomplishments to live a great life. Rather, living a full and meaningful life is accomplished by spreading love wherever and however one can. Dickinson’s heartfelt poem is a great choice when honoring those who dedicated their life to helping others.

1. Psalm 23: A Psalm of David, The Book of Psalms (KJV)

This famous psalm speaks directly to our desire for peace, both for ourselves and for our loved ones. Psalm 23 is perfect for a service because it applies to both the mourners and the person who has died. When David claims, “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me,” he’s expressing a sentiment that not only encourages us when thinking about a lost loved one, but also gives mourners the strength to continue on the grief journey. The “valley of the shadow of death” can refer to those who are making the transition from life to death and to those who are trying to face life after losing a loved one. For religious ceremonies, this is a wonderful choice, a beautiful testament to God’s ability to bring comfort and peace to his children in dark times. A cry of faith amidst the storms of life, Psalm 23 is the perfect funeral reading.

*”Success” is often incorrectly attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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